Hi Reader,

I know so many nice people. Many of these people are older ladies I've met at political meetings lately. I adore them. They mean well. They're so nice.

When I was growing up, I was told to be nice. Nice meant being polite, holding my tongue, and not wearing white after Labor Day (yes, really.). It meant knowing how to behave at the Easter lunch table and how to write a thank you note after an event.

In the early years of my career, being nice meant ceding the conversation to louder, more confident [male] people. It meant biting my tongue when I felt strongly about a direction our department was going. It meant that everyone liked me.

But I didn't like myself.

In being nice, I was not being kind to myself.

Kindness involves intention. It's an action that we must step into. When nice will say "yes" to anything, kind will say "no" when it's the best thing to do.

Kind isn't afraid to do the hard thing. Kind is meaningful and brave. It's willing to do the tough stuff even when it's inconvenient.

Nice is passive and there to please others. Kind is here to remind us that sometimes the best thing isn't the easiest, but it's what we need.

Were you conditioned to be nice? Told to be a good girl? Praised for how agreeable you were? I feel you! I was too. And I had to unlearn those lessons to step into the version of who I am now.

If you're unsure how to navigate this move from nice girl to kind human, you're invited to join me and a small group of women at the Activate Your Black Moon Lilith Sign workshop on October 26th. This workshop is part learning session/part ritual.

We'll be diving into the Lilith placement in your astrological birth chart, which will help you discover where your courageous kindness lies. Like Lilith herself, this placement shows the parts of your personality that you've kept under wraps. The parts of you that have been shamed into exile.

It's time to reveal those parts and embrace who you truly are, whether that means you're a sensitive empath, a fierce protector, a wild adventurer, or a courageous queen.

Are you in?

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